At this point, you’ve heard all the warnings about getting together with your family for the holidays. And you’ve seen what’s happening all around the country. So . . . are the risks worth it?
According to a new study, one-third of parents say YES, the benefits of getting together with the family for Thanksgiving are worth the risk . . . even if elderly grandparents are involved.
The main reasons are because they say it’s very important for kids to see their family . . . they want to keep holiday traditions going . . . and they have pandemic fatigue.
In the meantime, if you are trying to figure out how to say no to your family getting together…
Certified marriage and family therapist Talia Litman says if you already made the plans and now want to back out you should call them at a good time and make sure you use “I” statements, such as “I’ve given this a lot of thought, and I’m feeling overwhelmed and nervous about traveling right now,” and be sure to include gracious statements such as, “I’m so sad that I won’t be joining this year,” “Thank you so much for the invitation,” or “I’m so sorry for the last-minute plan change and the inconvenience it will cause.”
Also, if your partner is also declining the invitation, they can handle the phone call themselves. With any luck, your partner’s family will be understanding that the holidays will be very different this year for circumstances beyond anyone’s control.